Self-Validation is a Super Power

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Self-validation is YOUR superpower, it is the ability to clap for yourself even when no one else is clapping for you. In my humble opinion, Self-Love and Self-Validation are CLOSE cousins…

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The ability to validate yourself allows you to own all the good/bad decisions you make and that is the fertile ground to cultivate the best version of yourself. In the long run, Self-Validation curbs self-doubt and negative self-criticism which often leave us feeling frustrated, insecure and unworthy. 

“Self-Validation is a form of Self-care, it also breeds Self-Awareness, which leads to Self-Acceptance.” – iSlenderSaMaCatalogue

I am a firm believer in mentorship and getting a second opinion, however, I believe that the most successful people in the world mastered owning their voice and setting the pace for their story. The likes of Oprah Winfrey, Afua Osei, Sho Madjozi and the likes individually learned to trust their voice and be their own hype man which now serves as the foundation to their success.

“A million likes will never be enough if you do not like yourself.” – Leanne Dlamini

Self-Validation is a form of Self-care, it also breeds Self-Awareness, which leads to Self-Acceptance. In the 21st century, being able to validate your decisions, your beliefs, your boundaries and simply being able to say NO is a form of Self-preservation. External validation prevents you from being able to put yourself first which results in your well-being taking the back seat. External validation makes the idea of prioritizing oneself seem selfish, which sums up my theory that Self-Validation and Self-Love are LA Familia.

I am honestly still doing the work, faking it until I make it where the need is,  intentionally choosing myself despite how anxious I get when I choose to let my friends down and miss out on on a ladies night in the name of Self-Care. Through trial and error, I am learning to confidently set the pace for my life, before I worry about what the next person will say, I owe it to myself to own my life and so do you.

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4 thoughts on “Self-Validation is a Super Power

  1. Interesting school of though.
    This is more of what we need to further as doctrine in the various spaces where we as a native people, gather.

    The superiority of us as a native African generation is still possible once we go back into the doctrine of “Self”. Black Consciousness in the political & economical spheres isn’t possible if we don’t deliberately drive an agenda of making individuals aware of “self” before all else.

    Knowing one’s self-worth helps one avoid all forms of exploitation. The victimization that is evident in the workplace gets nipped in the bud when individuals are aware of “self”…

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  2. Beautiful and insightful article. It’s a subject closet to my heart and one in which you did justice too. It’s part of the mystery systems teaching from the ancient world, Know Thyself.

    You were able to give it a contemporary feel and break it down in an understandable manner.

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