I’m sure that you have heard the saying more times than you can remember,” trust the timing of your life” – meaning that you should let go, trust God and watch it all fall into place. Another Cliché that you have heard before is that “Patience is a virtue”, but it is easier said than done especially if, like me, you are a junior with senior executive dreams. In a nutshell, we all want to win, in our careers, in our friendships and relationships, the catch is that we all want to win SOONER than later.
The world has dubbed millennials as the generation that wants to go from zero to CEO as in yesterday…we are an impatient generation. Academics blame it on social media and the design of the modern world, whatever the cause, it seems as if we have become accustomed to instant gratification. Millennials feel like “it” is not happening fast enough, we are in a rush to reach our desired destination, that we forget that “the journey is the reward”.
According to research, social media contributes directly to youth anxiety as it has a way of making it seem like our peers are 10 steps ahead of us while we are somehow trailing behind. We all seem to forget that people only share the highlights of their lives on social media. We idolize and anxiously envy our peers success’ while downplaying the amount of hard work, dedication, sacrifice (blood, sweat, tears) and of course the time put in to reach a specific goal. In the words of Steve Jobs, “…if you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” And it is so unfortunate that we often place our happiness on hold, taunt and undermine ourselves’ by believing that we are not reaching our destinations fast enough.
Lessons important to our success exist in the gap between where we are and where we want to be. Simple lessons like defining success for ourselves’. Complex lessons about rejection and determination. Essential lessons about kindness, purpose and what I deem to be the most important, lessons about mental health, self-love, and self-care because you can not truly win if you are not right within. As I read about the journeys of my favorite moguls, phenomenal women like Taraji P Henson and Issa Rae I realize that persistence and self-assurance are a common thread in their journeys.
My personal journey has taught me to remain graceful in the face of failure, and that failure cultivates resilience. For instance, when I started modeling at the age of 14 years old, I lost every pageant I entered and spent 3 years of my life being turned down by every agent I approached, only landing my first modeling contract at the age of 17 years old. In retrospect, I realize that the rejection fuelled the fire I had to build a successful modeling career. Another example of a motherland mogul whose journey we can learn from is the talented singer, Shekinah, who auditioned for Idols SA on two separate occasions and did not “win” on each account, she has since stacked up awards and recently made history by successfully hosting music festivals across two regions in South Africa.
A home-cooked meal tastes better than 2-minute noodles, I know that’s a very corny example, but you get the gist, don’t you? I am a huge believer in purpose and the idea that everything worth having takes time. I know that it is not easy but if you let the work do the talking and keep the faith, it works itself out. In the words of one of Africa’s most successful musicians, Kiernan Forbes…
ALL IN DUE TIME LIKE GOOD WINE!